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[quote=Anonymous]PP I think you are giving OP bad advice. First of all, every birth is different. Just because you breezed through two deliveries doesn’t guarantee you anything. Anyone can have a hard birth, a hard baby, or a hard recovery. Anyone.

Second, why do you GAF about what some stupid secretary thinks about your leave, or someone going over there allotted leave. There is no such thing. People are entitled—legally—to a certain amount of leave based on federal and state law. Whether or not this is paid is entirely dependent on company policy, state law, and individual circumstances.

Your post to me just smacks of being out of tough. Most people having their first child in this area do not have a HHI of 700K, and many women will be putting their child in daycare and not keeping them in the peacefulness of a home environment with a 1:1 ratio. As a mom who put her 16 week old in daycare, I can assure you that it’s awful, and the illnesses are horrific, and not being around your baby for 10 plus hours a day while they are cared for by a rotating staff of caregivers with your child getting basically 1/6th of someone’s attention is a pretty rotten experience.

It’s fine that it matters to you to “read the room” about your leave but as someone who did that the first time, it just makes you look insecure. Who cares if you take 16 weeks or 20 or 24? For most jobs, where we could be let go in a heartbeat, sacrificing previous and irreplaceable time with our newborns and taking advantage of legal benefits and protections people have fought for for centuries is a no brainer. Who gives a toss what Karen in accounting thinks about how long you took on maternity leave? No matter what you do, you can NEVER get the time back, but you WILL be working for probably 30-40
More years. Your career is long, infancy is gone in the blink of an eye. PP you are just perpetuating a cycle of women not taking the time they actually need to recover and heal from birth and care for their child because of your insecurity and privilege. [/quote]

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