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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I’ve commented on the similar threads that have cropped up recently, as someone who does make friends easily.  Moreover, I’m very satisfied with my friendships and also confident in my ability to make new friends.

A few thoughts:
-Most people would benefit from being far more selective with those they’re seeking a friendship with.  “Seems nice” isn’t a high enough bar
-Relatedly, you need some kind of spark or chemistry with someone.  That can develop over time, but all of the people I think of as newer friends (say, people I’ve become friends with in the last five years) had that.  When I talked to them the first time, it was a quick, mutual connection.  I know it when I feel it
-That connection is necessary but not sufficient.  Someone has to be available for and seeking a new friend.  Not everyone is, usually for reasons that have nothing to do with you
-Focus less on making new friends NOW and more on getting to know people over time.  Even when you do feel that chemistry with someone, it takes time and exposure to develop into friendship
-Remember that you only need a few close friends to feel less lonely.  I don’t have a ton of friends, I’m not a queen bee (though I enjoy planning get togethers), but I know who my friends are.  We have each other’s backs.  We’re mutual.

Hang in there.[/quote]

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