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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son was born premature. He had a global developmental delay. I had to quit my job to feed him myself, because he wouldn't eat at the crappy daycare we could afford.

Then he was diagnosed with severe ADHD and learning disabilities. I'm pretty sure he has a mild form of HFA as well.

I've never gone back to work. I took this kid, who doctors said might not ever be mainstreamed at school, and taught him myself, organized a physical education schedule myself, so that now he's a senior in high school, has done multiple AP courses and has already been accepted to one college.

But no one can measure how far he's come except me, since I did most of the work. My husband taught him to walk, and tutored him in math, but he that represents a fraction of what I had to do.

I try not to write this out too often, otherwise I cry. I'm crying now.

So I don't care what others think about my sacrifices, and how people told me "ADHD is overdiagnosed, boys will be boys, why don't you get a job, blah blah blah". My sacrifices were so worth it!

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Did you homeschool him? Because not working while he was at school 35 hours a week for 13 years is not exactly a sacrifice. [/quote]

NP. I think it's really hard to understand if you're not in the thick of things how that time your child is in school is sucked up by doctor's appointments, following up on recommendations from therapists like preparing charts, special food, studying all the materials about your child's condition, trying to research and advise and supervise with outside school activities, for some people literally reviewing all the academics your child does so you can tutor them after school and make sure they are on top of things, not to mention the regular tasks of cleaning up and buying all the special clothing they might need. Many parents I know are also driving their children to school because they can't do the bus. One mom I know from a support groups spend hours each week repairing and cleaning because her child has big meltdowns and destroys things and another parent mentioned their child goes to the bathroom in the middle of their rooms sometimes. There are not enough hours in a day to do all this.

OP-Don't let these people make you feel judged. Your child is lucky to have you.[/quote]

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