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[quote=Anonymous]OP, this is a super complicated situation with many, many layers - emotional, financial, and legal.

I kinda get the advice that the son is getting - not the illegal and immoral hiding of assets, but spending down the assets to get the dad qualified for Medicaid and the mom set up as the Medicaid community spouse. It's the most expedient, but perhaps not the most appropriate given the circumstances.

You may want to talk with your county's senior services office and get their take on what to do given the circumstances. They may come up with a different scenario on how they can remain together in a community care setting, then split up as needed. FWIW, Medicaid does not pay for AL.

The emotional here may be the most difficult to disentangle. Do your cousins look to you and sister here for support and this kind of involvement? What is the relationship b/t the brother and sister? How does she feel about her brother dictating she provide free labor for caring for her mom given the early life experiences? That's a helluva lot of nerve for one sibling to ask of another.

GL to your aunt and uncle here - hope they are able to get in a setting works for them as well as others.[/quote]

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