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[quote=Anonymous]Do you know why the 2 who don’t want kids feel this way? If they don’t want to share or they do not want kids because they just don’t want them, then there is not much you can do.

But I know a lot of people these days are opting out of parenthood because it costs so much and is so hard on a career. If this is the case, do you have finances you could offer to help (e.g. if kid A mentions they are not having kids b/c of childcare costs in their city, offer to pay for daycare). You may not be able to do that, but a lot of parents are helping out their adult children financially because it has become so hard to have kids and live a decent lifestyle.

My parents helped with a house downpayment, provided some childcare help when my kids were young, treat to some vacations and take kids during the summer, helped out during my unpaid maternity leaves, etc. It’s a huge factor in why DH and I could have 3 kids and keep our 6 figure jobs and still have some semblance of a nice home/vacations/date nights.

I don’t blame people without family help for not wanting to fund all this on their own. The US has made having kids so untenable for the middle class. If you aren’t footing the bill at all, you can’t be too surprised.

Or maybe help your daughter freeze her eggs or even pursue single motherhood through donor sperm or adoption (also very $$$).[/quote]

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