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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my experience kids tend to really really hate this kind of schedule if the summer parent doesn't live in the area.

In a divorce you so often have to choose between two less than ideal options. This is one of those times.[/quote]

My guess is if the other parent doesn't live in the area, this entire discussion is moot. Implied in the scenario is the other parent lives close enough for the child to go to the same school. OP just wants the child to wake up in the same place every day.

Ultimately, this isn't likely to be granted by a judge. You can spend a lot of money trying to make it happen but I suspect it will be futile.[/quote]

Why not? There is DC case law supporting it when there is a documented diagnosis that shows the child is negatively affected by transition, which shows the benefit of an every other weekend schedule. I am trying to go beyond that and offer additional time, so I thought maybe the summer idea would work.[/quote]

If a kid struggles with transitions, big ones, like moving from one house to another for months at a time, are going to be really hard.

Do you have evidence that your kid has trouble with the 50/50?  Have you tried it for a couple years and now you want a change?  Because in my experience the kids whose parents have 50/50 custody with one week on and one week of, for example, get used to the transitions, but the kids who make these huge transitions struggle every time, and they end up struggling at the start of the year, when they're trying to remember and reestablish routines at home at the exact same time they're building a lot of routines at school.

I'm speaking as a parent with a different custody schedule that's neither this nor 50/50, so I know that 50/50 isn't right for everyone, but also as a special ed teacher who has seen a lot of kids over the years.

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