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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people lost their mom when they were young children. Should you therefore not be allowed to grieve your mother’s death at age 51? After all, you had so much more time with her than they got with their mothers.[/quote]
Right?  I know two families where the mother died in her 30s or 40s.  If OP wants to see it as a competition, or grief as being something you need to "earn," then by her logic, she shouldn't get to feel so sad about losing her mother at 54.  But that's NOT how it works.  Everyone grieves their own grief, and you don't have to earn feeling sad or struggling with losing a parent.    [/quote]
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people lost their mom when they were young children. Should you therefore not be allowed to grieve your mother’s death at age 51? After all, you had so much more time with her than they got with their mothers.[/quote]
Right?  I know two families where the mother died in her 30s or 40s.  If OP wants to see it as a competition, or grief as being something you need to "earn," then by her logic, she shouldn't get to feel so sad about losing her mother at 54.  But that's NOT how it works.  Everyone grieves their own grief, and you don't have to earn feeling sad or struggling with losing a parent.    [/quote]

Not to derail your point, but OP is 54 now. Her mom died in 1999 and her dad died in 2008.[/quote]

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