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[quote=Anonymous]He is an adult, and unless you have a financial stake in the decision, you really don't have a say?

Take it from someone who lived in a really, really rough neighborhood in North Philly for 6 years in my younger years, I feel like a lot of people have unrealistic ideas of the danger faced by their loved ones in such areas. The vast majority of the serious, violent crime in these neighborhoods are targetted at people already involved in drugs/violence/gangs/etc. The vast majority of people are just trying to live their lives in a bad situation.

Yes, there is a higher risk of property crime (car break ins, B+E, etc), but ultimately how comfortable he feels about that is his decision. It is not wrong to bring that up - especially if he has other options - but if he is smart, don't get flashy, and try and get along your son probably are going to be okay.

To be honest, while me living in that area was a financial decision, I dont know if I would go back and change that decision, even if it was possible. I still talk to a lot of my friends from the neighborhood I lived in, and it taught me a lot of humility as someone who grew up fairly well off. It also taught me empathy for those who are struggling. I did have my car broken into once, and my home was also broken into once, but I was never seriously hurt, even as someone who stood out. [/quote]

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