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[quote=Anonymous]Op don't let the posters who say they fear for your marriage freak you out. This really isn't about your marrige, it's about your husband & his parents. It sucks but hold your ground. I could have written your post 2.5 yrs ago, and no, my marriage isn't in tatters now. I was lucky in that there was that flu going around so georgetown wouldn't allow any visitors.  I delivered 2 mos early, so the NICU release date was up in the air. I told my husband his family could not come until our baby was settled in at home (risk of preemie getting germs, didn't want to master breastfeeding w/ the inlaws hovering around, etc). My husband wasn't firm enough but did agree w/ me. Well the day we all came home, we got a text that they were getting on the flight.

It was pure hell!  I was so uncomfortable w/ them hanging around, they wanted me to babysit them, get them food, etc. MIL couldnt tell me enough everything i was doing wrong w/ the baby  I was constantly hiding in my bathroom in tears. I was so frustrated my husband didn't put her in place enough, but it was almost fruitless bc she wouldn't listen. My mom was the opposite, would show up w/ groceries & cook, do everyone's laundry, wash bottles & pump supplies, soothe the baby, etc. Of course MIL had a fit that I was being unfair and letting my mom have the baby more when my mom was actually helping. It was awful. I am terrified bc I'm expecting again, and I just want a peaceful homecoming and first weeks. Oh & the inlaws were staying in a hotel, not even at our house and it still was awful. Seriously hold your ground. You know what you will be comfortable with and what will create the best environment for your new baby. [/quote]

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