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The end goal is to be a financially independent adult, OP.

This means going to college, since the income gap between non-college educated adults and college-educated adults keeps widening.

This means having solid reading comprehension skills as well as solid writing skills! College admissions get more competitive every year. You can't just walk into your state U anymore. UMD and UVA both require top GPAs and if you submit a standardized test score, they need to be high.

I cannot overstate the importance of working on this! You need to persuade/bribe/crush your middle schooler's opposition to additional tutoring because she does not realize she's sabotaging herself for life. Explain it and say it's non-negotiable.

I'm not an expert on dyslexia. But my son with several learning disabilities, ADHD and HFA needed to work specifically on reading comprehension and a skill called inferencing (understanding unwritten information from context clues). He had a writing tutor that worked on all aspects of written organization and reading comprehension, but mostly on inferencing, for most of middle school, and then he had ACT test prep in high school, as well as occasional tutoring for some of his AP course work. We have spent a small fortune on this, and it's been worth it: he would never have made all the progress he has without one-on-one tutoring.

Please tell your child that families who can afford it pay for tutors to increase their kids' changes of getting into a good college, even if they have good grades to begin with and no learning disability. In my corner of Bethesda, most students will have a tutor for something at some point, whether they're in private or public!
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I agree and disagree with this response.

The part I agree with is that you should encourage your child to continue tutoring (once you assess what the correct intervention is).  Until your child reaches an adult reading level and spelling (or as high as they can get with the dyslexia) intervention makes sense.  My approach with my child has been to acknowledge that it is difficult and a commitment to continue tutoring and a downside of dyslexia but also highlight the strengths of how my child’s brain works (for my child it is creativity).  The tutoring in the end will allow your child the most / best opportunities and options as an adult.

My disagreemet would be not to frame it as needed to get into a “good” college.  I am not sure if such additional pressure is necessary.  Also, for a special needs student especially, the focus should be on finding a college that is a good fit (and being flexible if college ends up not being the next step).  The right fit might not be what the genera population views as the “good” college.[/quote]

Thanks to both PPs.

At this point, we would be happy if kid goes to college. We have been trying to explain college vs no college careers and kid seems indifferent. Kid is super bright (“very superior”) but they hate school because they thought they were “stupid” for years. They are in a much better place now, but still disinterested in school. 
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My very bright dyslexic kid was appalled at the idea of college in 6th grade - it made school seem so endless. He still dislikes school in 10th grade and finds it a chore and a slog, but he now does plan to go to college. He gets Bs in a local independent school, so he’ll have options at private colleges or a lower-tier state school.

My son also wrote like a first grader in middle school. He skated through without much progress. This year he is taking a writing class elective and it is really helping. He dislikes it because of how hard and nitpicking it is, but he acknowledges it is useful and he needs it.

So much growth happens between 12 and 16! Hang in there. Get buy in from your daughter for whatever supports she’ll accept, but have confidence that what she rejects now she may accept in a couple of years. I’m dyslexic too and I was an utter mess through middle and high school. My writing was atrocious. I write for a living now (though I still can’t spell).[/quote]

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