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[quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM. It is actually a pretty unequal relationship. My DH makes the money but I am the one who is spending and making financial decisions. I make decisions about where we will live, what we will wear, what we will eat, how we will travel, who we will invite, what my kids will do.  I assign tasks to my DH  related to housework, kids education and ECs etc, and he will do the tasks, but the research, planning and delegation is entirely on to me.

I am the boss of our domestic world - household, staffing, kids education, ECs. medical, finances, maintainence, repairs, remodeling, social obligations, family time, vacations, entertaining and networking.  So, I feel it is a pretty unequal relationship at home.  DH follows my lead but I am leading.  Of course, outside the house and in the workplace DH is the one who is the high performer making the $$$. I only do twice a year entertaining of his work colleagues.

Does my DH has a say in our homelife? Sure. He does. He and I share  the same vision and goals.  He too wants us to live in a wonderfully run house. He wants the kids to do very well and win accolades WHILE also being happy, healthy and fulfilled. He wants us to have a thriving social circle and maintain ties with family and friends. He wants us to be entertaining very frequently. He wants us to be involved in our pet causes and passion projects. He wants us to travel and have time for our hobbies.   He sees my successes as contributing to the family's success.  We also have a great marriage and we have been with each other for 30+ years. Things are going swimmingly. But, no, it is not an equal relationship at home. [/quote]

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