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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your husband control his temper with his boss or co-workers? Would your husband have an outburst similar to what you have described if he was pulled over by the police for speeding? If the answer is NO, that means he can control his temper, but he is choosing not to with his family. Only you can decide what your tolerance is for his behavior.[/quote]

PEP, the Parent Encouragement Program has a short course on Anger Management and this was the first point raised, in a role play, so there was no mistaking it.

https://pepparentonline.org/p/anger22

I took the class to help one of my kids who has anger issues but I learned a LOT. Highly recommend calling and seeing when it is offered again. You should go too, OP. It burst a lot of thought bubbles I had as the PP clearly stated. Anger is an emotion but how your DH is making a series of behavioral CHOICES. Your kids may go to the extremes in response, the one with more difficulty regulating may become more reactive, other kids may develop more of a co-dependent, trying to manage others' moods personality.

We can't control other people, OP. Figure out what your range of responses to him and to the kids may be. Divorce is not a panecea when one parent is like this. The kids could be alone with him 50% of the time. Some of the PEP educators are also private therapists, which can be helpful in adjunct to or as a follow up to the course.

If DH has underlying mood issues himself he should see a psychiatrist for evaluation. If he has a history of abuse or trauma, a psychologist. If he is unwilling to do those things, develop your own options.
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