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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to accept that these are her decisions to make and the situation is has a thousand nuances, not all of which you’re privy to since you’re not there day to day. She’s probably estranging herself from you and others because she’s feeling judged. The best thing you can do to support her is lend and ear and just listen and commiserate without giving advice. Seems clear she doesn’t find advice helpful; if you’re able to, please try to stop giving advice and your relationship may improve.[/quote] NP. That works and is fine, up until the point where she becomes abusive. If she is using other people as her verbal or literal punching bag, then no, OP does NOT "need to accept" or just listen. At that point, it becomes her responsibility, and she needs to take responsibility for that. She won't let people help. They don't have to be abused by her. Once she takes responsibility for her own actions again, things can move forward.[/quote]
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