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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore everyone who just wants to be catty but has no first hand experience.  DH and I have a similar age difference, and it's starting to show now that we are in our 50s and 60s.  We have been together over 20yrs since I was in my 30s and he was in his 40s, and it's never mattered until the last year or two.

Kids are still in school and I'm still working while DH is ready to retire.  We're having a lot of disagreements and struggles over what that would look like and how it would work.   We love each other and will figure it out, but it's an extra layer of stress that wouldn't be there if we were within a few years of each other.  I won't say don't do it, but I'll say we both now have some frustrations we are having to work through.  Especially since your child is not his biological child, really have hard conversations about whether there will be resentments down the road when he wants to retire and you still want to focus on paying for college, or your child rebounds back to live at home post-college, or things like that.
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I don't understand what you mean by "what that will look like"?  Plenty of people of similar age to their spouse retire before the other spouse for a variety of reasons.  Does he not pay for anything kid does?  Does he abstain/distance himself from  all finances related to "your kid?  [/quote]

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