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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it is because of privacy issues but I agree that there is some degree to which the privacy is counterproductive.  My DD had significant conflict with a boy in her class last year and her perception was that there were no consequences to the boy for his behavior, which just made my DD feel like the school wasn't protecting her.  Had they been able to tell her some of what they were doing, she would have at least felt like they were trying.

It is similar to how the school will call to tell you about an incident with another child but not tell you who the other child is.  My kids are older now and can tell me, but in most cases by time you get to upper elementary school, the identity of the other child really matters to the context of what happened.  If the school isn't going to tell me the full story, don't bother calling me.   [/quote]

OP here. Yes, my daughter basically believes there's no consequence for bad behavior at the school, which is heartbreaking. I asked her why she didn't tell her teacher about the incident, she said "They don't do anything about it."

I'm not expecting the discipline of the offending child to be printed on posterboard and hung in the hallways, but for the two parties involved, the victim and the offender, being transparent about the outcomes and consequences provides closure. Which is very needed for holistic and effective conflict resolution.

Instead, you get hand wavy, "The environment is safe" mumbo jumbo with no specifics that no one, not the kids or the parents, really believe.[/quote]

OP I say this with the best intentions and no snark:  Consider this an opportunity for your daughter to learn about how the world actually operates, as opposed to trying to change your child's immediate environment in a way that is not preparing her for the real world.  Talk to her about only being able to control yourself and not others, to use her voice to speak up when she is wronged and take steps to correct.  Try to redirect attention away from thinking about retribution/consequences/discipline for others.[/quote]

I'm not OP, but I am PP whose DD had a problem with a boy in her class last year and not enough was done to stop it.  I understand your point, but here is what happens when schools abdicate their responsibility to keeps kids safe and punish kids for bad behavior -- kids engage in self-help and for the most part, the adults are never happy with how the kids try to resolve these issues. And often, the victim who is finally defending themselves is the person who gets in trouble.  In addition, you have 11 and 12 year olds (and older), who now know that the adults around them aren't going to protect them and they lose respect for those adults and their behavior communicates that fact.  And then school staff wonders why kids are so disrespectful.  I really appreciate teachers and school staff but if you want my kid's respect, you are going to have to earn it.  That's just how she is.  And if you weren't willing to protect her from other kids, don't call me to complain that she is rolling her eyes at you or not speaking to you.[/quote]

OP here, and yes. I co-sign this 100%. [/quote]

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