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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think everyone needs to pull their own weight in society.  And frankly that means not only doing things you enjoy, but things that benefit society, involving some degree of self sacrifice.  I will have trouble respecting you if you are not engaged in that effort, much less listen to anything you have to say on social media.

That said, sahp’s with young or special needs kids or who are doing elder care, of course they are working.  And the job market can make it tough to accommodate family life with a woh job, so I give most people the benefit of the doubt.[/quote]

I feel like you're almost there, but are missing some stuff.

You acknowledge that some SAHPs are doing valuable work in the form of taking care of young or special needs kids, or elder care. Ok. What about SAHPs who have school age kids but spend their days running the household, cleaning, managing the family budget, staying on top of kid's activities, cooking and grocery shopping, etc. Are those activities not "pulling your own weight"? If these SAHPs went to work, the couple would have to split all those activities during non-work hours, which could be stressful and take time away from the family. Does that not have value?

And let's examine people who work for money during the day. If some SAHPs are pulling their weight more than others. aren't some working people pulling their weight more than others, too? Some people just sit on computers, barely working, scrolling social media and getting annoyed by the SAHPs in their feed posting about bento box lunches, gossip with coworkers, and not much else. Some of these people don't even do this in an office where they are forced to interact with people -- they just do it from home. Are they "pulling their weight in society"? Are they pulling more or less weight than the SAHP with two school age kids who is doing 90% of the household work while their partner works outside the home?

And more importantly, is it your role to judge? Are you ready to line up what you do every day against everyone else and hear the verdict on how much value you produce for society? And when you line it up, make sure to include how much time you spend on DCUM at 9:30am on a weekday because none of us on this thread are really "pulling our weight" today, are we?

Signed,
A lazy office worker who used to pull my weight a lot more back when I was a full time SAHM, and who now spends a lot more time scrolling the internet than I ever did when I was running a household by myself[/quote]

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