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Your first talk is with DH about why he threw you under the bus like that. He may not have meant to do so and may honestly have been caught off guard by the whole thing, and blurting about the kids' schedule was all he could think of. It sounds like SIL blindsided you both with this idea. BUT from now on DH, not you, handles the communication and has to recognize that his family is his to handle  and he can't let you be the villain.

Even if this trip were within the US, even if were to the state next to mine, I'd say no just based on MIL's age and the fact SIL has health issues. Just nope. Not with kids those ages. You are right, OP. Don't let them guilt you into this. I'd bet they're going to go on about how you're depriving the kids of a wonderful opportunity, and/or they did the same at the kids' ages visiting relatives solo, or they'll say you're unduly paranoid etc. Don't cave to any of that. Paste on a big smile and change the subject Every. Single. Time. Do not make any vague promises to get them to stop, either; don't let DH say things like "Well, maybe next year" or "WE'll see about maybe atrip at Christmas" etc. Nope. That will only be taken by them as a "yes" to eventual travel when you cannot know at this point if you'll do this later, either.

If you and DH can go make a family trip of it that's great, or if you OR DH could go alone, but not that distance with an older MIL and a SIL with health issues. Just nope. [/quote]

Wise answer here.[/quote]

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