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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you do when you invite friends over OP? Anything?

I can’t tell if you’re calibrated super laid back about piles of mess in 100% of your home, or what.

What’s your kitchen look like when the adults go to bed? Is there any counter or table space? Or is clutter everywhere all the time- on dressers, counters, shelving, tables, desks, laundry machine, etc.[/quote]

OP. We make our house presentable for guests. The kitchen is cleaned and wiped each night, bathrooms are sanitary, clutter is not everywhere all the time. If we found out people were coming over unexpectedly, we could do a 15 minute pick-up and the house would look fine. I swear I am not a total slob.

In general we split chores 50-50, and he likes to be recognized and patted on the head whenever he does something ... I probably don't give him his proper words of affirmation or something. For example he is better at vacuuming than I am but he cannot open his mail or clean a toilet to save his life. I do not lecture him repeatedly on the proper way to clean a toilet or the importance of opening mail, nor do I expect praise for doing these things. (OK, I wish he'd open his mail sometimes, but it is not worth a daily argument.)

The clutter also bothers me, but I have accepted it because an entire section of our small home had to be emptied due to the renovation. The stuff had to go somewhere. It's a temporary mess exacerbated by kids being home for two weeks. And yes we absolutely have too much stuff, but it's his stuff too!

Basically I am annoyed with his annoyance and his resultant behavior and I want nothing to do with him. Lord of the Manor indeed. Hmmmmph[/quote]

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