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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have any good friends but I stand there alone and put a pleasant look on my face. I get a few waves and hellos. What you want to avoid is burying yourself in your phone with RBF because then you'll be the unfriendly mom. OF COURSE it's unfair that you have to do this but it's important for your kids' social lives.[/quote]

Disagree that it's important for your kids' social lives, because (1) they will actually do better with their social lives on their own at school than you think -- just let them make friends and then reach out to those parents for playdate when it happens. It's not that hard. My kid is even on the shy side and this works for us. And (2) plenty of other moms are also standing there scrolling their phones with RBF, so no one is sitting there thinking "there's that ONE unfriendly mom." Lots of people feel this way and plenty of us just opt out of the chit chat and pick our kids up and go, and I've found there are no real consequences for this. Again, when my kid has made friends at school, I've reached out to their parents to get together outside of school, and people are always receptive and friendly. I've never had someone reject us because they saw me looking tired and standoffish during pickup. Not once.

Just nope out of the pressure of pick up socializing. Everyone is at the end of their day, they are tired, the kids are tired, let people just do what they need to do to get everyone home and fed. Save your socializing face for actual social events, like kid birthday parties or organized play dates. Then you can show up rested and ready to make small talk. But school pick-up? Just let it be.[/quote]

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