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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do observe more discourse- largely on the internet about how parents' behavior harmed or did a disservice to their kids.

My theory is that it is a byproduct of the (very good) increasing focus on mental health and how interpersonal dynamics can affect mental health.  We learn to identify things like trauma, and toxicity, and the like.  The problem arises when that lens overtakes everything, and the concepts are applied to nonproblematic behavior.  You see it happening on this board- people refer to "toxic" parents, gaslighting, narcissism, passive-aggressive, etc.  No doubt, these things exist and can be harmful.  But when imperfect parents doing their best who made some mistakes are labeled as causing "trauma" for their children, the whole thing breaks down.[/quote]

I think we need to find a better way to categorise traumas and abuse because the stigma over those words are holding a lot of us back in fully embracing the process of healing. But the dynamic is real.

I’d argue that self-compassion is missing from the conversation.[/quote]

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