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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did the relative do something to the child?[/quote]

OP here. Not to my knowledge. Whenever I confront child, child says their angry that relative watches Fox News loudly every time they come over, opposes relative’s political and religious views, says they find the sound of relative’s voice annoying, that relative meddles way too much/is judgmental, relative leaves multiple doors at unlocked at night every time they come in front door and go outside through other doors, that relative comes over too much and stays too long, relative wears dirty shoes all over the house, that relative is sexist toward DC (relative is same gender and sex as DC) and I could go on. Relative is not a bad person in my eyes. [/quote]

It sounds like your relative is around more than your child is comfortable with. Why is that? You say "in a caregiver capacity" but what is the relative doing and for whom? It seems maybe like while your child is home over break, they should feel welcome and secure in their home. Your relative at the very least could turn off that station, turn the volume down, avoid speaking with your child about politics or religion, be more mindful of safety issues like leaving doors unlocked and cleanliness issues like dirty shoes in the house.

It doesn't really matter whether YOU think that the relative is "a bad person." They sound unpleasant to be around, for your child at least. At 22, your child is able to decide who they will and will not establish relationships with. They're not required to have a close relationship with close family that they aren't comfortable with. Stop forcing it. Why do you care more about this relative's comfort than your own child's?[/quote]

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