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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your adult child has a right to make their own choices about who they like and want in their life, including relatives. Leave it alone. You aren't going to make them like each other. Don't try.

I would sit down with your adult child. Explain that you respect their dislike of the relative and that you will do your best to minimize the amount of time the relative is in your home while your adult child is there. (And do that!)

However, in return, and as it is your house, you expect the adult child to treat with basic courtesy anyone who comes to your home. Your adult child doesn't need to sit down and watch Fox with this person, but they can say "hello" and accept gifts graciously, as they would with anyone.

And tell the relative to turn down the darn TV. No one wants to hear a blaring TV all day. It's your house and the relative is treating it like it's theirs. Don't be a doormat.[/quote]

Yes, if they choose to be in a home where this other relative is welcome, they need to be civil enough to say hello.

NO, they do NOT need to accept gifts. Gifts are weapons and tools to manipulative people. “No, thank you” is a fine response to a gift you do not want, for any reason, at any time, from anyone.[/quote]

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