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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is one of the many things that has done me in over the years with trying to help parents/inlaws.

First off, you are very fortunate that he accepts any help, he isn't raging or tantrumming at you and you and your siblings are on the same page and able to work together. My sibling just feeds my mothers delusions and gets financial rewards for it.

He needs a full assessment and I would just let you know you and your siblings want it for peace of mind and won't be letting up until he gets it. I would also get him to accept an aging professional visiting and assessing every few months so that you all can leave him alone and stop worrying.

Those are some first steps.

It really is so frustrating and challenging, but like I said, the fact he went along with anything means he is a lot more compliant than the elders some of us deal with so I hope he stays that way. Also, if you have siblings who aren't going to take advantage of him financially you are a step up.[/quote]

Where do you find an "aging professional" that can stop by to assess every few months?  [/quote]

Google geriatric care managers in your area.[/quote]

This, but be careful. If they are a service that allows you to age in place, they will push this at all cost. They sell you the moon, when in reality, they just contract with many places. They tell you they never have no shows or issues. I guess we were the only ones and so were the other people I met through a caregiver support group. Imagine that. So my point is, interview first and if they say they do what the parent wants that sounds lovely, but most parents want to stay at home even when it means constant falls, total isolation and you having emergency after emergency.

Re:nursing homes person described. That is an extreme and it's nursing, not memory care. We saw beautiful memory care facilities with cheerful staff, plenty of sitting areas and even a Gazebo where you can enjoy nature and lots of activities including adorable sing- alongs (which my uncle LOVED).[/quote]

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