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[quote=Anonymous]I can't really track the narrative here but here are my takeaways:

1. OP is passive aggressive AF in her relationship with her parents. There is just some much implied annoyance/anger with them, so many places where she is assuming that they are annoyed/angry, and so much interpreting of actions as "petty" or "childish" when there are other explanations for it. And I say this as someone who spent years in therapy due to having "emotionally immature" parents! So I'm not saying her parents aren't emotionally immature. But I can say for sure that OP is, and that a lot of the issues here stem from her need to be right, to be the hero, to cast herself as understanding and forbearing while portraying everyone else as petty and cruel. It's exhausting. That's what people are responding so negatively here, OP -- you are painting yourself or your family as a martyr and honestly none of this seems that bad.

2. Travel was a huge cluster for everyone this year. It's stressful. There should be a lot of empathy and understanding on all sides. Everyone in this story needs to drop the guilt trips and recriminations. None of you are responsible for the travel issues. Chalk it up to problems beyond your control and treat each other with kindness.

3. I don't like people lecturing my kid (not how I parent) and might be annoyed with a comment like "just stop". But I also don't support my kids in sending repeated messages or FaceTimes with people who are in the midst of a logistical crisis? I definitely wouldn't endorse my kid sending them flight updates or saying stuff like "prices are going up Grandma, you probably want to book now." Sounds like the 8 year old is being trained up in the grand tradition of guilt trips and passive aggression in your family. In a way "just stop" is the first direct expression of a reasonable boundary in this entire story and for that reason and that reason alone, I think I support it. You all need to just stop, frankly.[/quote]

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