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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.[/quote]

My Dad has a VERY distinct name and a business with that name and was STUPID enough to use his real name with his trasgender dating profile. So there is NO hiding this. If my cousin found it his clients will find it.[/quote]

DP: then I would tell him this, gently and alone. "Dad, your name, your REAL name, which is tied to your business, showed up on some trans dating sites. Whatever you do, whoever you are, I love you and it's okay with me as long as you're being safe and using protection. But can I help you delete these profiles with your real name so that your clients don't find this - not everyone is as open-minded as we want them to be and I'd hate for this to negatively affect your business or how you're treated. So can I help you delete those? You can create a new profile with a handle that's not tied to your name, and create a gmail address specifically for this. Can I show you how?

And then I'd encourage him to tell his ... wife? [/quote]

I don't support him cheating on my Mom with anyone so that definitely would not be my talk track..[/quote]

Of course, but here's the thing. 1. He may just be looking and not dating people. 2. He may not KNOW if he's trans. Some older people have lived so conservatively that they're literally not sure of the wording to describe how they feel, and he's trying to figure that out. Maybe he's "just" gay. Maybe he just wants to cross-dress but thinks that makes him trans. He might be on a dating site trying to talk to others to learn how he feels. If he's so non-tech savvy that he used his real name, then it makes sense to me he doesn't have the words for this. I would not jump to the conclusion he's cheating on your mom. [/quote]

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