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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to my sister. They survived. It was an alcohol problem more than anything else. The question is, what do you want? My sister wanted to keep her family together and thought he was worth it when sober (and he wanted to get sober). But she wasn't willing to give him unlimited chances. He's sober a few years now, but if he relapsed, I'm not sure they'd make it a second time. Up to you if your DH is worth it.[/quote]

This is always the fairy tale people want. I found something similar with my DH - texting other women. I was 34 and we had a kid together.  He said he regretted it, promised to do counseling, stop drinking, etc.  Said it was “only” this kind of affair and then described to me something that was less transgressive than what he actually did.   Fast forward 2.5 years and I caught him again and kicked him out. That was 2.5 years of my life, wasted, painful and traumatized, that I’ll never get back. Would have been easier to leave when the kid was 2.5 y.o. rather than 5.  Negatively affected my career and earning.

Just leave now (or when your divorce attorney advises and you have everything ready). Drunk and contacting women is enough. No one - neither parents nor kids - should have to live in an environment that lacks safety and stability. [/quote]

Similar thing here. Drunk texting the old HS gf (hello, cliche). Begged for forgiveness, blamed alcohol. Same thing a few years later, same promises. It is a cycle that will repeat unless he truly gets sober with professional help. That is where we are today - sober with professional help. But I had to make clear where I stood - and I saw a lawyer, concentrated on my career and support system, hardened my heart, etc. [/quote]

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