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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, I had to read this twice to make sure it wasn’t my husband writing it! We are in the exact same situation except my MIL has remarried. She resents the hell out of my parents for simply existing. We are convinced she is a narcissist.

I have no words of wisdom except that we have told his mom to ignore my parents at kid events. Just don’t even try to be fake nice because she lives in some bizarro alternate reality where every interaction is mischaracterized. So the easiest route is one of just show up and go to your corner, MIL.

It is exhausting, and you have my sympathies. [/quote]

OP here. Sorry you are dealing with this too. Luckily they generally ignore each other, but it's so awkward and uncomfortable as I literally have to sit in the middle of them at everything. And then when they see my child after the event, my mom gets very possessive and seems to have a problem if my ILs are there during "her" time with HER grandchild. That plus the calls afterwards about her issues with how everything played out AND my perceived role in all of it is what's truly exhausting. Last time it was that I didn't pay her enough attention and DC didn't pay her enough attention. It's just all too much for an elementary school program (or whatever event it may be).[/quote]

I responded to you previously and you commented that I had summed up the situation.  I have a narcissist mother.

You need to go grey rock.  Google it.  Stop with the after event conversations.   Make it as uninteresting and un-engaging for her as possible.   Not sure why you need to sit in the middle of them at an event.  Their interactions with each other are not your problem.  I had suggested you explain to your MIL how your mom is and just tell her to avoid.  So your MIL should not sit next to her.  Your mother's behavior is not a reflection of you nor is it your problem.  It's just really not.  [/quote]

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