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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are all feminists until the check comes. Right ladies![/quote]

Feminism doesn’t mean you can’t be treated to a meal or entertainment— by men or women. It’s weird you think that.

In the early dating stages, paying for dates is a way to show generosity. Stinginess is one of the biggest turn-offs and it’s hard with only a short history to show your partner that you’re a generous person, so this is the easy way. Later on in dating when you can do things like bring them soup and Gatorade if they’re ill or sit with them waiting for vet results it’s not as relevant because you have other ways to show it.[/quote]

And then you wonder why we have all these threads on dcum about ladies in ten year marriages where they’re furious that the women handle all the work around the house, cooking, cleaning and taking care of their “man baby” who thinks his only obligation to the home is to bring a pay check.

You all see that if you start on unequal footing, you’ll likely stay that way, right? [/quote]

NP. No, I don’t think that men paying for the dates while first few months dating means you’re always going to be on unequal footing and you can expect that the man will always think his only obligation is bringing home money. That makes no sense to assume or anticipate that. Showing an eagerness to romance a woman is not the same as an entitlement to have a wife who is your cook and housekeeper. Weird way of thinking. [/quote]

I think OP’s point is if you start out defaulting to traditional expectations (I.e. the man should always pay), part of that bargain is accepting expectations for traditional gender roles across the board. Especially someone like OP who seems to want a sugar daddy. [/quote]

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