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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are all feminists until the check comes. Right ladies![/quote]

Feminism doesn’t mean you can’t be treated to a meal or entertainment— by men or women. It’s weird you think that.

In the early dating stages, paying for dates is a way to show generosity. Stinginess is one of the biggest turn-offs and it’s hard with only a short history to show your partner that you’re a generous person, so this is the easy way. Later on in dating when you can do things like bring them soup and Gatorade if they’re ill or sit with them waiting for vet results it’s not as relevant because you have other ways to show it.[/quote]

And then you wonder why we have all these threads on dcum about ladies in ten year marriages where they’re furious that the women handle all the work around the house, cooking, cleaning and taking care of their “man baby” who thinks his only obligation to the home is to bring a pay check.

You all see that if you start on unequal footing, you’ll likely stay that way, right? [/quote]

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I don't see the two related at all.  I think between dating and marriage there is enough time to know what you are getting into, have discussion about future rolls, how those change when you have kids, and continue that conversation.  The issue is no one discusses until the animosity is there.

I always paid for dates.  The problem that arises from men paying is you have men who expect something more than a cordial conversation on the next date after paying for 1,2,3,4 dates etc.  That can set the tone for a transactional relationship. Paying for a date with expectation that sex is the "thank you" is the big issue.  And my guess is this is what makes a lot of woman feel more comfortable chipping in. [/quote]

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