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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a guy who makes $$$ who gets upset when the woman does not offer to pay. For the first few dates, fine. After a handful, he starts getting bothered.

Does it matter if the guy makes 50k or 500k?

Guy I’m thinking of probably makes $500-800k per year.

Dh and I were both in grad school when we started dating. Dh paid for most dates. I know I would pick up take out or buy groceries. I’m not sure how I would handle dating a guy who I knew made a lot who would not want to pay for me. But if he was broke or made equal or less than me, I would of course not expect him to pay for everything.[/quote]

To me, the biggest red flag in this story is that your DH was taking you in dates in grad school that involved paying, and he was paying for two. Where was the money coming from? Loans? His parents? Neither of those are good answers for someone you are screening for marriage material. Every dollar he’s paying to take you in dates in grad school is likely a dollar of debt the two of you will have to pay off together later in life. Not sexy. [/quote]

My husband paid for all our dates when he was in undergrad and living off student loans. The horror! Our dates were ice cream, burgers, the cheap movie theater, etc. Yes those dollars were a debt we had to pay interest on, and he decided that the dollar be paid for ice cream that he would later have to pay back as two dollars was worth it. When we were officially dating he put 80 dollars in cash in an envelope and that was our date money for the month, and when it was gone it was gone. After he (and I) graduated from law school we did just fine paying off our student loans.

You can show a woman a good time and still be fiscally responsible. [/quote]

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