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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are three of us and the youngest is the dud.  We suspect some undiagnosed mental illness but he’s almost 40 now.  Similar to OP, no job or desire to get one.  My elderly parents pay for his living expenses.

My other sibling and I coordinate care for my parents.  Sibling 2 has basically cut off sibling 3 completely.  I still talk to him and hear my parents worry and stress about him.  They are concerned he will not be okay after they die someday because they finance everything.

I think he may then finally get a job or we will help out with the minimum to keep him off the street.  We have not offered this but I can see it happening.  Yeah, it’s stressful. [/quote]

I had an older sibling with a developmental disability, now deceased. Our parents really never wanted her to be a burden, but we never really thought about it that way. We were fortunate that it was really never that way.

IDK how I would have thought about this is if it had been your sibling or OP's or other siblings described here. Our sister's situation was just so clear and our parents really tried to be as equitable as they could (and without much money). Mental illness can be so debilitating yet I can imagine it would also be so frustrating to have a sibling's living expenses covered by parents and then realize there may be an expectation for the working sibling to do the same. [/quote]

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