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[quote=Anonymous]In a dream world a rich father would help his family, but your father has proven over and over that he does not care.  Period.  Full stop.  Right now, though you happen to share genes,  he has no more relationship with you than a casual acquaintance and you need to think of him in that way.  Would the nice cashier lady at Safeway that you chat with give you some of her money?  Would your co-worker give you shares of their million?  Of course if they had it you'd certainly love to have them share it, but the odds are likely you'd be way down on the totem pole of folks on their list.  So too with your dad.  He is indeed a narcissist.  No one is wrong for wishing someone would share money (especially when it would be most needed) so don't think you are wrong in dreaming of that.  Just know that your father is not predisposed to share and you have years and years of proof of that.  He is what he is and you have to build whatever relationship you choose to have with him on the presumption he will never change.  Honestly, I'd stop trying to please him.  You are putting a lot into a one-sided relationship.  Focus on building your family with your mom, your kids, and the memory of your husband who clearly valued you and your mom.  Good luck to you.[/quote]

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