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[quote=Anonymous]I am a big believer of therapy. It has helped me tremendously. I'm not going to address the infertility aspect because I don't have experience in that. But I do have a lot of experience with therapy and acceptance when life has not gone as I thought it would.

"Therapy has not helped."

OP, I'd say two things. Either 1) your therapist has not helped, not the therapy itself. You could try another therapist. I've had many over the years...many have been just okay, while a couple have been really good and helped me get through some serious stuff.

And 2) therapy only works when YOU do the work. It sounds like you are still struggling with how things have panned out...gently, have you truly worked hard in your sessions and outside of them? Because therapy will not work if you are not digging deep to work though what the issue is. I know digging deep can be scary, because it means facing something one doesn't want to face...for you that sounds like your family being the size it is. For me it was other things I didn't really want to face and take responsibility for. But once I did honestly face things, the true healing began.

Also, I was an only and never felt lonely (I'm not sure if your child is actually lonely or you are projecting what you think she feels onto her). I had friends and activities that were fun, then I loved coming back to my quiet, calm home. My child is 10 and an only and he has an active social life...when at home he facetimes/texts his friends and cousins. I actually think that it's easier to be an only now than it was 40 some years ago when I was a kid.[/quote]

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