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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. She’s calling me again (after big blow up last week where she yelled for 2 hours, threatened to hurt herself, called me derogatory names) and is posting pics of her with my kids on social media and family group chats. Like nothing happened. I’m not answering or responding. 
Not surprising that since last week, while I am super upset and conflicted, she has been to two large social events, all dressed up and the life of the party (acquaintances who saw her there texted me). No one has any idea what she is really like and everyone thinks she’s the most amazing mom, wife, grandmother. 
I’m speaking to my therapist again after several months later this week….[/quote]

Does it ever make you angry that she is able to live an apparently carefree life while you are stuck dealing with the detritus of interacting with her?

Can you ever imagine doing this to your own child?

You have to find a part of you that is self-protective. Sending vibes.[/quote]

Not OP, but I just posted because I have a mom like this. If OPs mom is anything like mine she may be the belle of the ball at times, but she also struggles with feelings of emptiness and major rage and if she is like my mom she cannot experience gratitude. I remind myself of this because I don't feel empty. I have a lot of meaning in my life. I am grateful for so many things and little things bring me joy. I do not bubble over with rage the way she does. I remind myself my mother may look charming to the outside world, but she struggles constantly with her demons and I would not want that life. I cannot imagine making anyone feel the way she tries to make me feel, but we are wired so differently.

Also, as OPs mom loses her filter more and cannot put on the facade those friendships may fade. My mother was incapable of forming true friendship even when she seemed to be surrounded by friends. Now many of her "friends" are moving away from her because they are seeing the side I have seen my whole life.[/quote]

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