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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just call and get the grout fixed.  Stop talking to him about it.  That is my sincere answer I'm not being snarky.[/quote]

But OP -- while the above is the way to go, will he, after the fact, then get angry/snarky/pouty that "You contracted for work and didn't consult ME!" Or: "You paid $X.00 for someone to do that when you could have gone on YouTube and figured out how to do it yourself!" etc. etc.

In other words: Is your DH going to find a reason to be angry about whatever you do, even if what you do is hire someone to fix a problem you and DH both knew was a problem? Is he going to make the issue about your needing to consult with him, even though when you've tried to consult, he says he'll do it, he drops the ball and the cycle just keeps going? I often find that people who do what your DH is doing are people who will find some other reason to be angry with how a task got done, even if the end result was perfect and done on time and on budget....Is there a larger picture of other "recurring marital disagreements" where he ends up defensive because he dropped the ball, and after that, you can do nothing right?

This might require some bigger talks than just "The tile guy is coming tomorrow at 9." Though I'd still get the tile done ASAP. Someone else posted for you to do nothing and he'd get this fixed when the shower fell on his head or whatever, but that's not an answer; YOU deserve to live in a house that's maintained sufficiently! [/quote]

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