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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. I’m sorry that you have had similar experiences. I am especially sorry to the PP who suffered physical and verbal abuse at the hands of family. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through but I hope you are in a good place now.

I’m still not sure how I’m going to handle this. One big issue is that my mom has verbalized suicidal thoughts before (never had a serious attempt but has some stuff to hurt herself). So, while she isn’t actively expressing such thoughts, and is under the care of a psychiatrist, I am worried that if I cut her off, she may hurt herself. So I stay.  [/quote]

I have posted before, but wanted to say if you haven't already, speak with your therapist about how to proceed whenever she talks about suicide. Does she have a therapist or just a psychiatrist?

Basically you want to keep stepping back and exploring boundaries until you find your comfort zone. In dream land, you set some boundaries she accepts them and you can live happily ever after. In reality, she will push against them and use all sorts of tactics and you work with your therapist regarding how to cope and proceed. Right now I am at low contact. She raged a lot with boundaries which just made me step back more. I no longer tolerate insults, guilt trips and tantrums and I wonder how I put up with it for so long.[/quote]

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