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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a therapist. This would have to be reported. And I agree with the PP, this should not be your biggest concern.[/quote] What? Because he grabbed the kid? God help our culture if we think it's better to lock up a parent or divorce him because he grabbed his kid too hard in a moment of frustration. Where is the compassion? Where is the proportionality? It really doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt the kid. Maybe he didn't realize how much force he was applying. Maybe he didn't realize the point at which he woudl leave a mark. And what's "a mark," anyway - a bruise? The slight discoloration in skin that comes from pressure or heat and then dissipates after a few seconds? As long as he now acknowledges that he squeezed too tight, I think everyone needs to get over it.[/quote] +10000[/quote] I am a different poster and agree with this. It’s legal to spank your kids. He needs better emotional regulation but this isn’t CPS-worthy IMO. And I am a mandated reporter and have reported to CPS before.[/quote] Then you do not know what you are doing. I am also a mandated reporter and leaving marks always requires a report. PP, maybe you should think about changing professions. [/quote] As someone said above, there are marks and there are marks. Grabbing a child even non-abusively will leave brief red marks. If we are talking about bruises visible hours later that is a different story. But considering none of us here has even seen the photos I think you’re the one jumping to conclusions.[/quote] That is not the responsibility of their couples therapist, in a new relationship, to investigate. That therapist's ethical obligation, if the OP describes the situation as in this post, is to report it to CPS and let them investigate whether it's serious or not. As a former CPS investigator, I agree that there are marks and then there are MARKS. This does not sound like a situation in which the child would be removed from the home, but it is not the job of the couples therapist to investigate that. Their responsibility is to report it to CPS. It doesn't mean that the couple can't work with the therapist. They still need help. But the therapist's professional ethics would require a report if the OP described it this way in a session or an intake document, and they risk their license by not reporting it.[/quote] Dp. You all realize that all you’ve done is convince OP not to talk to her therapist about this, right? Way to go, mandatory reporters…[/quote] I’m the mandatory reporter who wouldn’t report this and I agree w you and also w the person who said the CPS investigation will cause more harm than the incident. Not to mention to the marriage. It sounds like OP is very very fearful and upset about her DH’s behavior and is in a “document” frame of mind which is almost paranoid. I understand she’s stressed but her own description may be somewhat exaggerated and since there’s clearly no threat of immediate serious harm I’d take time to understand the situation more thoroughly rather than hitting the CPS button right out of the gate which incidentally will also end the DH’s agreement to attend therapy.[/quote]
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