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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You bean-counters need to grow up.  You throw the wedding that you can afford WITHOUT expectations that you'll get back value in wedding gifts or cash.  Your family and friends best gift to you should be their presence in witnessing your big day.  If they choose to give a gift after that, you should be very gracious.  And you should not hold it against them if they don't give you a gift or give you a gift that was less than what you spent on entertaining them.  That isn't part of the social agreement.  If you think it is, you have grossly misunderstood common etiquette.

If you can't afford to throw the party without getting back what you put into it in gifts or cash, then you spent beyond your budget.  You don't get to dictate what other gift you and you most definitely should not be cutting them off or weaning away from your friendship or relationship if they didn't give you what you expect.  Or maybe it would be better for them if someone so self-centered did cut them off.[/quote]

I’m not relying on gifts to pay for the wedding. The wedding is well within our budget and we have a good income. It’s not even the money. You mention their gift should be their “presence in witnessing our big day”. Honestly, we would not even have invited them if not for obligation based on their familial relationship. Parents or grandparents would complain. Don’t know if they even really want to be there. This gift tells me they don’t. If this was a close friend and that’s all they had, I wouldn’t have even made the calculation. [/quote]

Maybe that was all they could afford.  You are greedy.[/quote]

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