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[quote]This isn’t about babysitting, I have a sitter I pay if I need one. I have all that covered! This is simply a question of why my MIL will complain about missing our kids but then will do nothing to see them.[/quote][/quote]

When you ask her to visit you, how do you actually word it? "I wouldn't mind you coming around and taking the kids to dinner." or is it closer to "Please do come around, we can have dinner together"?

If the former, I'm not surprised she doesn't want to deal with you. Because that's what she'd have to do before she can see the kids. And it has nothing to do with being able to afford a babysitter, it's the way you view her.[/quote]

No clue what happened above. Let’s try this again:

I’ll admit we aren’t close, probably because of my husband’s career and just the way we have never gotten close. In the past I would ask, “Would you like to come visit this week? Let me know times that work for you!” And then inevitably nothing works collectively.

We don’t have a relationship. We’ve tried in the past when I was pregnant, but with DH not there as the common ground, we have absolutely nothing in common, and the kids aren’t enough. Imagine forcing a friendship with the coworker you have the most awkward relationship with. That’s what it felt like. We tried, though!
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All in law relationships are like this. You’re not unique. Most of us don’t want a new mom or dad. We all just grin and bear it. [/quote]

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