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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Generally the mom’s culture is what passes down most. I have many friends who are in mixed ethnicity marriages, and this is almost always the case. When Dad speaks another language, the children rarely speak it. But if it’s the mother’s native tongue then the children do.  Yes, there are exceptions but I find it to be overwhelmingly true. [/quote]
Agreed. This is my experience. [/quote]

+1. Moms are the ones who generally put in the effort to preserve traditions, recipes, etc.  So the Dad's side tends to get lost.  This happened a bit in my family (I'm the white Mom, Latino Dad).

If the Dad is a recent immigrant, I think there can also be more of a striver mentality where he wants the kids to go the best schools, do the activities that will help them get ahead, etc.  Like, I enrolled my older son in a bilingual school that was kind of crunchy and super-liberal, but my Spanish-speaking DH didn't like it and pushed us to move him to a more traditional public school with better test scores.  He was worried about him getting behind in the more loosey-goosey environment (which is legitimate, and I didn't fight him on it, but I have the confidence of a white UMC person and was sure he would do fine regardless). I think he also sees assimilation as the route to success (although he would never say that), so instead of doing Spanish classes on the weekends, for example, he wants the kids to do soccer in the same league that as the other kids in their class. [/quote]

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