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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've noticed that when the mom in a mixed family is white, the family tends to basically function like a white family with minimal contact with the POC side. Very little observance of cultural festivities and definitely very little cooking of the POC side's foods. Families tend to not vacation in the home country or with the POC parent's family. My DCs went to one of the language immersion charter schools and very few of families that were native Spanish speakers had a white mom. Mine is a mixed race family (Latino and white) and I'm the mom and the Latino. Our social circle in DC has become mainly other Latinos and all the moms in our circle are Latino.

Do others notice this gender/race pattern too? If so, what do you think is the reason for it? [/quote]

I'm white, my H is Mexican. Like PP said, a lot of it is that I do most of the child-related tasks.

I cook some Mexican food, but H usually complains that I do it wrong and that it doesn't taste good. So I don't cook it much.

I don't speak Spanish, so I can't teach it.

I usually try to find cultural activities - like I found a few options for Dia de los Muertos - H didn't want to go to any of them.

H's family has chosen to have minimal involvement, so we don't see them much. It's a huge family and our kids are the youngest of the bunch, so everyone just sort of stopped caring about grandkids by the time they came along.

For immersion schools - H wouldn't take the time to research schools, wouldn't want to drive the kids farther away, and wouldn't want to pay for it.

I'll probably get slammed for saying this, but I think part of the problem is that in many cultures, men aren't expected to do much domestic work. So they aren't hands-on with the kids very much, and their culture doesn't get passed down. H is fairly progressive and it's still a challenge to get past the subconscious cultural conditioning that women are the ones responsible for the home.[/quote]

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