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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also relate deeply to what OP is talking about, this feeling of irritation when someone is talking about some plans and you know they are blowing hot air and they've done so before...  I can't even remember the last time I've had this type of conversation but I know that it's happened and that it really irritates me.

I think the problem is me, not the other person.  It's not my problem what this person does, why the heck am I so invested?  I think for me it's such a contrast to my own style- I'm not going to say I'm doing something unless I fully plan on doing it.[/quote]

I'm a new poster. I agree. My MIL does this all the the time. Every month she says "oh we're looking at buying property in XYZ place", I'm moving to California because it seems like you don't need me here.... do you need me here?", "How do you think your parents would feel if I bought a home in your hometown? It's just so... quaint.", "I think I'd like to get a dog so I can make more friends," "I think I'm going to start going to church... you don't have to believe in God to go to church, do you?"

These are all REAL comments that have been made.... these ones in the last year. I could give dozens and dozens more. Sometimes I think she just says things for attention and to be provocative, but I also wonder if she really BELIEVES these things that she says.

It really irritates me, because for someone who is always "dreaming," it feels like we're just talking about nothing - things that will never happen. I also am not a "dreamer" so when I first met her, I legitimately believed everything she said. My husband told me, "Words mean nothing when it comes to my parents. The only things that matter are their actions." And I actually find that kind of sad for him. But now I feel like I take literally nothing she says seriously. It's like the boy who cried wolf.[/quote]

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