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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have had conversations with a social worker, spouse who was in this situation, etc. I don’t know what to do. When I visit my mom, she seems almost normal. The longer I am gone, the worse she gets. MMSE test didn’t show clinical dementia yet, but I am seeing all the symptoms of confusion, etc. What do I do? How do I handle this? I don’t have a sibling who can help with my mom. I live here in the US, mom in Europe. I have teenage kids, I can’t just pack up everything and move back. Likewise, if she came here, I would have to pay everything out of pocket (I am not rich). I don’t know what I should do and how I can organize care (mental and physical). Please share your experiences, what you would do, and what you think I should do. Fwiw: I am the main breadwinner, have a mortgage and have only 2 choices: 1. A job I like, that pays me more but that’s hybrid. 2. A job that’s fully remote, less money, insane work standards and an awful, awful boss - but I could spend as much time as I want in Europe. I am torn and desperate.[/quote]

Can you please not refer to her as "Alzheimer mom?" No one wants to be reduced to a disease.

To start, she needs social contact/stimulation. Can you arrange for that in Europe? Can you Zoom with her often?
It certainly won't control her progression, if that is in the cards, but may slow it down.

Europe is usually better than the US, in terms of social programs. You have to do your homework in terms of finding out what government agency handles this in her country. Schedule services/meetings electronically. I don't think you should move your life to Europe but you will likely have to take the lead in identifying resources on the ground for her.

I am sorry for your stress. [/quote]

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