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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I’m surprised so many women felt comfortable being away from their babies. I think women should feel free to take trips and leave their kids and not stay home as martyrs. But I just didn’t actually want to leave my baby even for one night when she was so little.[/quote]

I'm one of the pps and I've found this has varied so much between my friends! I think it also depends on so many things - personality and how the transition to motherhood is (for example, are you anxious postpartum or are you someone who really struggles with the new lack of independence) - moms that tend toward a little more anxiety (me!) have a harder time enjoying being away I think. My friends who really struggled with the changes in their schedules and independence and genuinely really missed that time and need it to feel rejuvenated, found those weekends away great which is what I think you're hearing.

Also time period and family circumstance. For example, my friends who were with their babies nonstop because of covid and didn't have to do daycare at 3 months (but had other very very difficult postpartum hiccups with covid woof) actually had an easier time because they REALLY needed a break, whereas for my precovid baby who had to go to daycare early I was just a struggle bus postpartum feeling like I didn't have enough time with him so going away for my best friends bachelorette was done out of frankly obligation because my friendship with her is incredibly important and I knew this was important to her and that my baby would be ok, but I didn't want to :) But some of my friends have genuinely enjoyed little breaks away and I think that's wonderful because the babies really are ok especially if they are with Dad.

There is such a wide variety of so much in motherhood! That's why I find these threads hard. Because I had a hard time with these times away but I have friends who it was so great for. It's impossible to know which one the poster is! If it's a friend then you can maybe predict based on personality but in this case, we can just share our experience and maybe op can pick up on how it will feel for her.[/quote]

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