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[quote=Anonymous]OP my best friend was getting married the year I had my first. I went to her bachelorette at six months postpartum (two hour flight away, two nights away) and then her wedding at 8-9 months postpartum (two nights away, it was driving distance but just not really tenable to bring the baby to, I knew my friend wanted me fully present). Ugh I can't say I loved it if I'm being honest with you. But for this particular friend it honestly didn't seem like a decision I could make, really. So I did it and had as much fun as I could. Baby was fine, (of course!) and is a happy 6 year old now, but definitely wasn't as fun as trips pre-baby. Bachelorette was better because baby was with my husband, wedding he was with my parents so away from both of us and again, did I have fun? yes. But I missed my baby a lot. Many find it to be a little easier though and find it just fine and that is really normal too.

I think it would be really reasonable not to go to the international one as that is a big ask. Be prepared that your friends may not understand fully even if they try to be understanding. I was the first of my friends to have kids and definitely no one understood what it was like for me to leave my baby during that time. I didn't understand it fully before having kids either. But one day if they do have kids, they'll get it. And sometimes you still have to just do what is right for you and know that your friends will love you either way as long as you do make genuine efforts to show up for them in other ways. [/quote]

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