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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an only child who my everything. My child is a toddler and approaching an age where if I’m going to have another child it needs to be now for them to really be arguably close in age. What does everyone think about having an only child verse two children? Any thoughts and feedback much appreciated.  I am looking for exclusively the perspective of [b]The benefits it would have on my child. [/b](not necessarily for my benefit)[/quote]

benefits of having a sibling:

1. you have someone else who remembers your parents after they have passed away, and remembers you as a child. 
2. You have a larger family as an adult (siblings family -- nieces/nephews, your kids have cousins = more interestingness)
3. you learn that you are not the center of the universe. this is a VERY GOOD thing (especially since you say she is "your everything.")
4. you have someone to play with at home. just ask some parents of only vs. siblings during the pandemic

cons:

1. your relationship with your parents changes (they cannot be as attentive), and that can be sad. 
2. when your kids fight with each other/hurt each other, it feels brutal. your "mama bear" instinct to protect will turn on, but against your other child!
3. family resources are divided.

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