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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two girls - almost 4 years apart. The 4 years wasn't intentional but just how it worked out. I never wanted or intended to have an only. I have one sibling (brother) and we are reasonably close. I had a blast growing up with him.

I will say that the first years with my first daughter were magical and enjoyable. I have fond memories of that time.

I was honestly worried about having two girls because my experience of that with my girl cousins who were sisters is they HATED each other - and in adulthood are not close. But my girls are close and I am incredible happy they have this bond for life.

I think is totally a personal choice and I have no hangups about onlies. They are different and privileged in a way because they have the sole attention of two grown ups but the ones I've known are normal kids.

I also admit I wanted a sibling for my first child for morbid reasons - [b]God forbid something happen to one of the children. And so that when their father and I die they aren't totally alone[/b].[/quote]

OP here.  This is a huge consideration for me, too.  One of my parents was an only child and did not like it. My closest friend is an only child and has serious struggles being in a relationship.  I am fine with just one I just wanted peoples thoughts on whether or not to may be better for my child from a huge picture of perspective. This includes after I pass away. It would be nice for them to have each other.[/quote]

Having a sibling is sometimes a good thing and sometimes a bad thing. I would base it off how badly YOU want another child. It’s hard to predict whether it would be better or worse for your kid.[/quote]

Absolutely!  And your happiness will affect how happy both kids are with their sibling status.  Many of my friends are onlies and very happy adults with very close friend groups and excellent relationships with their parents.[/quote]

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