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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree to an extent. I find having an attorney take the lead helps my mental health. It’s an exhausting, emotionally draining experience and it’s nice to have someone detached to handle some of it. [/quote]

I agree with this, even though I also agree that the $$ spent on lawyers is actually money that could be spent on therapists/treatment.  I couldn't afford to keep spending money on lawyers and advocates, so I learned to do the work myself.  I found a family member who could reliably accompany me to this meetings - to keep me from punching someone and to keep me from going crazy from the gaslighting!  I found that there was also, frankly, a lot of misogyny at the meetings (even when most participants were other women).  Even when I was making statements that were 100% grounded in the law and in the neuroopsychological evidence, I would be dismissed as an emotional woman/mother who couldn't accept that her special snowflake wasn't special.  In these instances, it helped to have a man with a professional degree or professional experience come into the meeting -- so I did occasionally hire advocates or attorneys (or threaten to).

I worked really hard to keep the IEP and keep demonstrating that the services provided were lies because it gave me leverage to make sure that the accommodations were provided with 100% accuracy.  It became easier for the school to give in on my challenges to the failure to provide accommodations when they knew that I could file a complaint about so much more.  [/quote]

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