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[quote=Anonymous]My parents didn't visit me for many years as an adult. Like 7 or 8 years went by without them coming to visit. I visited them frequently during those years but eventually got frustrated that it was so one way (especially when travel for me meant using scarce vacation time and spending money I was trying to save for a down payment, whereas they were semi-retired and traveled a lot and are very financially secure.

Then I had a kid and they suddenly wanted to visit all the time.

I feel like they demonstrated to me that they were not that interested in my life and now I am much less interested in their visits. No more than once a year and I visit them once a year and sometimes we skip a year because I don't want to go. My feeling is that I worked hard on our relationship in my 20s and 30s while they did nothing, and now they want to be involved grandparents but I've constructed a life that doesn't involve them because they were so absent. If they wanted to be in my life, they should have made more of an effort. They don't really even know me now.[/quote]

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