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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. This is stressful.  But, I think you need to trust your daughter. One key to this is feeling confident she is informed about various risks and has the tools to make wise choices. This can't be achieved by tracking her.

I am probably more conservative than most on sex, drinking and drugs here. But, I definitely stayed out all night even though I wasn't drinking (before 21) or sleeping with anyone in college.  I am quite frank with my kids on all the ways I put myself at risk as a young adult, and I prioritize safety. Sure, I'd prefer if they didn't drink at all. I emphasize that they are naturally creative enough not to need booze or drugs, but the most important caution is, if they drink, they moderate, hydrate, serve themself and keep an eye on the container. Stay with friends, don't go off on your own with a stranger, etc. Essentially a set of ideals and absolute basics. They know they can come to me, but part of them trusting me is me trusting them and not tracking them. My oldest is a real grandma and literally in bed studying until she goes to sleep, so she hasn't really tested this, except with campus safety walking back after a late rehearsal (call the campus buddies program,  do not walk alone at midnight in the city!). But #2 may test it. I think the key is to be on the same page with expectations, remind her you're there for her and trust.

I don't see the problem with PP's kid texting her. The kid is initiating. Mine might also text me as a means to confirm location with someone for safety reasons. [/quote]

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